PERTUNANGAN (Engagement) - Adab dan Larangan (artikel English)

Umumnya, pertunangan adalah sesuatu yang digalakkan dalam Islam, untuk mengenali hati budi dan memperbaiki diri masing-masing.

Namun pengaruh kuffar Barat dan budaya non-Islami menyebabkan ramai pasangan tunang yang melanggar larangan seperti: berdua-duaan (berkhalwat), malah berzina.

Ramai juga pasangan bertunang yang menganggap si lelaki mesti berbelanja hingga tahap membazir dan boros untuk membelikan barangan kepada si perempuan, atau ahli keluarga wanita itu.

Relationship between the Engaged Couple

Question
Dear scholars, As-Salamu `alaykum. What are the limits of the relationship between the engaged couple?
08/Jan/2003

Name of Counsellor
Yusuf Al-Qaradawi

Topic
Engagement

Answer
Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear brother in Islam, thank you very much for raising this good question that reflects a good understanding and truthful desire to have a clearer view of the teachings of Islam. May Allah crown this truthful desire with His satisfaction and reward!

In his response to the question in point, the eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, states:

“Betrothal, literally, customarily and legally, is different from marriage. It is an introduction and a promise to marry. Books of language draw a difference between betrothal and marriage. Likewise, in custom there is a distinction between a fiancé and a married man. Similarly, in Islamic law (Shari`ah) there is a big difference between the two terms; so betrothal is no more than a declaration to marry a certain woman, but marriage is a complete relationship based on a sound contract and a solemn covenant that entails specific requirements, rights and consequences. The Glorious Qur’an refers to both betrothal and marriage in the course of its reference to the case of widows: “There is no sin for you in that which ye proclaim or hide in your minds concerning your troth with women. Allah knoweth that ye will remember them. But plight not your troth with women except by uttering a recognized form of words. And do not consummate the marriage until (the term) prescribed is run.